Forgive And Forget
It’s time to release.. and learn how to forgive and forget.
Has there ever been a time in your life that someone has wronged you, treated you unfairly or hurt your feelings? I know most of you will say, “of course, who hasn’t had that type of experience at some point in time?” Have you held grudges against the people whom you felt treated you unjust or have you let it all go? I ask because it is interesting and a little disturbing to me when I hear adults place blame on their circumstances and past experiences and make them justifications as to why they are or aren’t further along in life.
Please don’t take me the wrong way, I don’t condone mistreating anyone and I don’t think that it’s okay to victimize others. The act itself isn’t what I’m questioning, instead, I am questioning the after effect of the experience and I’m wondering if it’s being used as a tool to hold anger and resentment within you. I admit that I’ve never been a holder of grudges. I’ve been hurt, disappointed and broken hearted however I think I was born the eternal optimist because I simply don’t let those things get me down. And if they do bother me, they don’t get me down for long.
I recently read an article in a woman’s magazine about how anger and the unwillingness to forgive is a contributing factor to all types of diseases, from cancer to heart disease. Wow, when we hold a grudge or dwell on another person with anger and resentment…it hurts us even more! We become toxic from the inside out and the toxic thoughts have a long term, detrimental effect on our health and well being. Not anywhere in the article that I read did it say that our angry thoughts cause the person we’re angry at to suffer, instead our angry thoughts cause us to suffer even more. Okay, it’s time to let it go and move on with your life!
Confucius said, “To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it”
Take this statement and repeat it several times each day upon waking in the morning and before falling asleep at night. “I forgive ______________ for ________________ and I forgive myself for holding this anger for so long.” “Today I am free from all anger and hurt.”
Have you forgiven yourself for past mistakes? I don’t hold grudges directed towards others but I have been known to get very upset with myself for making a mistake. Can you relate? I have gotten so irritated with me for making bad decisions in love, business, and in life. I am constantly reminding myself that the errors were all part of the lessons and the journey which has led me to this wonderful place in my life.
If you find your anger is directed at yourself, take this statement and repeat it as often as possible. “I forgive myself for _________________ and I now release the anger and the pain associated with that experience.” “My mistakes are my lessons by which I grow from today and always.”
A great book to read on the power of forgiveness is by Louise Hay and is titled, You Can Heal Your Life. This book is a classic on the correlation between anger and poor mental and physical health. She offers some wonderful affirmations and exercises to release the anger or pain associated with a life experience or painful action caused by another person or even by you.
I love the saying, “have attitudes of gratitude to make your life brighter and happier!”
Over the years I have been angry and disappointed by an incident or by something that didn’t happen for me however years later I see the beauty of the situation and I am grateful for it. For instance, when I first decided to become a full time entrepreneur I struggled and I went flat broke (emotionally and physically) in pursuit of my goals. It was a painful and humbling experience for me to go through and yet, years later I look back with gratitude for those lean years of hardship. If I hadn’t struggled, I wouldn’t be the successful life coach that I am today. How would I identify with my frustrated coaching clients had I breezed right through and created an abundant business right out of the gate?
Sometimes when we’re in the moment of the challenge, it doesn’t appear to be anything we could possibly be grateful for and yet, if we can hold on for a couple of years…the gift is often revealed. Another for instance is a situation of the heart which occurred for me several years ago. I loved, I lost and I was hurt from the experience. It took me awhile to get over that heartbreak and now I look back and I could just kiss the man who broke my heart! Thank God he was a dud and moved on because shortly after him, I met my now fiancé John and trust me, he was worth the wait! Had I not gone through the darkness, I may never have experienced the bright sunshine I live in today.
Let go of the past and live in the now. Now is where the living is…not yesterday or even tomorrow. Now is the time to forgive, forget, be grateful and live your life. Look back with compassion on any situations which caused you pain. Did any good come of the past experience or can you see the gift of the incident today? Are you better, stronger, and a more determined person because of your life mistakes?
Will you let the past go so that you may be healthier, happier and more successful today?
You deserve the joy of forgiveness. If it’s painful and making you sick…forget about it! (Use strong Italian accent when saying that last sentence) 
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Change Is Good
When we embrace change and accept that change is inevitable life becomes easier and a more enjoyable experience. How many times have you resisted change only to discover that everything changed even without your agreeing to it? Life is in constant motion and the world isn’t static for you, me or anyone else for that matter. I recall reading a quote several years ago and I’ve always remembered it, “change is eminent, growth is optional.”
To grow or not to grow, this is the question we should be asking ourselves every single day. We know change will occur however what we must decide in the process is whether we will grow during the transition from one experience to the next or if we will dig our heels in and exclaim that “everyone else must be nuts because I am fine!” Pointing fingers at others and digging in our heels to do our best to not transform is not only foolhardy but also a bit on the same scale as burying our heads in the sand, like an ostrich hoping that when we look up, all will be as we prefer and nothing much has changed.
I love the phrase, “here we grow again!” When I am in a difficult situation I remind myself that I must be growing again & that this too shall pass in time. I ask myself, “how can I gain from this experience and is there a lesson here for me?” Adversity makes us stronger by causing us to develop more creativity in handling the circumstances life throws at us. And more importantly, we have the opportunity to grow ourselves within the situation by the way we address the issue as we move for resolution
Creating a new habit requires approximately 30 days of focused, disciplined intention. Just 30 days and you could in fact, replace many of your old, outdated and perhaps even sabotaging type of personal and professional habits! Wow, isn’t that something to get excited about? How do we develop new habits? We decide to create a new habit; we decide that it is more fulfilling to live life with our new habit than continuing with the old one. Notice the key phrase is, we decide? Make a decision because you do have a choice, life will change, people change, situations change and so can you!
Will change be difficult for us, perhaps yes and then again maybe no. Remember, the more we resist or perceive the change to be “difficult” it will be and the more we affirm changing is about choice and we choose to change…zippity do da it can be easy and fun! Sometimes people resist changing even when the change is a positive experience for everyone involved. Why would someone refuse to go along with doing a thing that is good for him or her and for us too? Often times it appears to be “easier” to not change rather than to take the “high road” and make the shift. I’m sure you have heard before that “perception is reality!”
As human beings we tend to be creatures of habit. Don’t rock the boat, don’t upset the apple cart and so forth is the ideas many of us grew up accepting as truth. I personally love the saying, “as long as you’re out on thin ice, you may as well dance!” I highly recommend you get out of the habit of having habits. Do the best you can to look with fresh eyes and brand new ideas at each situation that comes your way. Look for better, faster, smoother, more fulfilling solutions than you ever have before now. Promise yourself to stretch, grow and break old patterns any time that you have the opportunity to do so.
Write 2 habits you will replace or eliminate this year?
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How will replacing or eliminating these habits assist you? _________________________
Name three people you will ask for support from in sustaining these changes you have committed to. ___________________________, _______________________________,
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- There will be people who complain about the changes in you, change anyway.
- There will be times the populace may not agree with your “fresh” new ideas, create them anyway.
- There may be new skills you must develop to implement your life changes…go develop them.
- There may be fear within yourself as you grow, change and become better…feel the fear and then continue moving forward toward your goals.
- There may be bumps on the path toward change and you may have to go over them, burrow under them, go around them or plow right through them…go for it, you are a winner!
I have the ability to create new beginnings every day of my life”
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Challenges
Life is made up of a variety of experiences some of which we may look upon as challenges. Many times I’m asked about the past challenges I’ve had in my life and how I managed to stay sane all the way through them! I smile at that question because even now, at this point in my life…I’m still challenged, daily.
It’s not the challenges that cause us the greatest concern it’s the lack of being in control that pushes us over the top. We expect challenges, hey that’s life however when they come and we feel as though we have no control over the outcome, we begin to panic. Fear is that unseen force we create, within ourselves and for anyone who has experienced heart-wrenching fear, it’s paralyzing in its intensity if allowed to run unchecked.
I use the word challenged because problems are BIG and we don’t want to give the issue we’re experiencing any power over us. Challenges can be met, addressed and overcome. From a subconscious viewpoint, challenges are manageable where as problems feel overwhelming to us.
Who isn’t challenged? Each of us experience challenges every single day in one-way shape or form. Why is it that some people face the challenge and move on to a solution, while others wallow in the challenge for days, weeks or years?
I’ve noticed that people with a positive outlook about life take the challenges and turn them inside out to create a growing, learning opportunity. This brings us to the glass being half full, rather than the half empty perspective and there in lies the solution to most challenges.
It isn’t the fact that each of us is challenged that is the issue, it’s how we view and address the challenge that causes us the most pain or peace. Life is made up of choices and we make our decisions based on our past experiences for the most part.
What if the next time you’re challenged you sit down and laugh rather than cry? What if you choose to say, “I can handle this” rather than, “this is too big an issue for me?” Would the outcome be different if you decided to be different in the midst of life’s turmoil’s? Speaking from first hand knowledge, the answer is YES the outcome will be different because you’re different!
Challenged?
- Shake everybody up and laugh instead of crying.
- Immediately begin to look for a solution rather than dwelling on the challenge.
- How serious is this challenge when you sit back and look at the, “big picture?”
- What steps can you take right now to minimize the negative impact of this challenge on your life?
- Is there anyone who can assist you through this challenging time?
- In ten years will this challenge really be an issue?
By asking yourself those six questions you can begin to see, “beyond” the challenge and thereby begin to move past it altogether.
All of us are challenged however not all of us are crushed by the challenges. Use these challenges as an opportunity to get better at this game we call life. Play life with an open heart and embrace each challenge as an opening to stretch yourself a little further spiritually and emotionally.
Remember, you can let go the emotions associated with this challenge by laughing or crying. Laugh at the challenge and watch it release its power over you.
Join Lisa every Monday at 2:00 pm (Eastern Time) for 30 minutes of learning, empowerment & fun on her “Power Up With Lisa” live radio talk show.
Lisa’s special guest are women, just like you, and they have each accomplished balance, harmony, financial profits and peace of mind, while doing the work they love!
You won’t want to miss a single show but if you do…all of Lisa’s power up radio shows are archived and available for easy playback 24 hours per day.
I’d love to hear your thoughts. So please share your comments below in the comment box for our community.
I look forward to sharing again with you very soon. By the way, if you haven’t find out why you deserve to own The Smart Girl’s Guide To Home Business Success. Click here to find out more.
Until we meet again – I believe in you!
7 Pick Me Ups Guaranteed To Get You Feeling Empowered Again
Feeling Blue? Today’s share will hopefully have you feeling empowered again.
Let’s get going… it’s time to start feeling inspired, excited, and empowered now.
7 – Pick Me Ups Guaranteed To Get You Feeling Empowered Again!
1) Get up and move! Exercise has been proven to release “feel good” endorphins in our brains, so don’t just sit there – jump rope, take a walk, or go to the gym and sweat, or my personal favorite, hula-hoop for 10 minutes! The point is, movement and motion energize and uplift you mentally and surprisingly enough, physically.
2) Read something positive and inspiring, especially biographies of successful people whom managed to overcome incredible obstacles and still achieved their goals. It helps to know that someone somewhere has been where you are and they got past it and actually flourished because of the challenges.
Here are a couple of suggestions of inspiring women with great stories: Estee Lauder, Mary Kay Ash, Oprah Winfrey, Debbi Fields Rose, JK Rowling and with a little internet research, you will find MANY more.
3) Call or visit a support person or your “Entrepreneur Buddy,” take a break and chat or lunch with someone who understands your goals and is supportive of them. It is so important to have people who believe in you, understand your mission and perhaps, can even identify with the challenges you face being a self-employed woman.
4) Music – Crank It Up! Music with an upbeat tempo and a positive, empowerment message can really lift you out of your doldrums. Dance around, feel the joy of the day and sing along to your favorite song – you’ll be feeling great in no time at all.
5) Remember your WHY. Get re-connected with your reason for being self-employed, review your long term goals and let them inspire you to keep moving forward. Sit down and journal about your feelings, hopes, and dreams and re-visit your “vision board” to get you back on the fast-track of success!
6) Meditate and listen to your inner voice as it guides you back to “center.” Be still, calm and remember to breathe deep, cleansing breaths as you allow the burdens of the day to melt away – its always nice to light a few candles and sit in a warm bubble bath as you relax and melt away your cares.
7) Watch a funny movie and laugh your troubles away! Did you know that laughter really is the best medicine for depression and physical ailments? It’s true; laughter is good for you and just like exercise and it allows good-feeling endorphins to be released into your bloodstream. Take a drive to the local park and watch the children as they laugh and play…you’ll be smiling again in no time!
That just about sums it up! 
So what are your thoughts? Ever felt blue and implemented any of the above steps to feel much better? Are any of these tips new ideas for you? If so, what will you begin to implement when you feel yourself slipping into a ‘blue’ state?
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