Forgive And Forget
It’s time to release.. and learn how to forgive and forget.
Has there ever been a time in your life that someone has wronged you, treated you unfairly or hurt your feelings? I know most of you will say, “of course, who hasn’t had that type of experience at some point in time?” Have you held grudges against the people whom you felt treated you unjust or have you let it all go? I ask because it is interesting and a little disturbing to me when I hear adults place blame on their circumstances and past experiences and make them justifications as to why they are or aren’t further along in life.
Please don’t take me the wrong way, I don’t condone mistreating anyone and I don’t think that it’s okay to victimize others. The act itself isn’t what I’m questioning, instead, I am questioning the after effect of the experience and I’m wondering if it’s being used as a tool to hold anger and resentment within you. I admit that I’ve never been a holder of grudges. I’ve been hurt, disappointed and broken hearted however I think I was born the eternal optimist because I simply don’t let those things get me down. And if they do bother me, they don’t get me down for long.
I recently read an article in a woman’s magazine about how anger and the unwillingness to forgive is a contributing factor to all types of diseases, from cancer to heart disease. Wow, when we hold a grudge or dwell on another person with anger and resentment…it hurts us even more! We become toxic from the inside out and the toxic thoughts have a long term, detrimental effect on our health and well being. Not anywhere in the article that I read did it say that our angry thoughts cause the person we’re angry at to suffer, instead our angry thoughts cause us to suffer even more. Okay, it’s time to let it go and move on with your life!
Confucius said, “To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it”
Take this statement and repeat it several times each day upon waking in the morning and before falling asleep at night. “I forgive ______________ for ________________ and I forgive myself for holding this anger for so long.” “Today I am free from all anger and hurt.”
Have you forgiven yourself for past mistakes? I don’t hold grudges directed towards others but I have been known to get very upset with myself for making a mistake. Can you relate? I have gotten so irritated with me for making bad decisions in love, business, and in life. I am constantly reminding myself that the errors were all part of the lessons and the journey which has led me to this wonderful place in my life.
If you find your anger is directed at yourself, take this statement and repeat it as often as possible. “I forgive myself for _________________ and I now release the anger and the pain associated with that experience.” “My mistakes are my lessons by which I grow from today and always.”
A great book to read on the power of forgiveness is by Louise Hay and is titled, You Can Heal Your Life. This book is a classic on the correlation between anger and poor mental and physical health. She offers some wonderful affirmations and exercises to release the anger or pain associated with a life experience or painful action caused by another person or even by you.
I love the saying, “have attitudes of gratitude to make your life brighter and happier!”
Over the years I have been angry and disappointed by an incident or by something that didn’t happen for me however years later I see the beauty of the situation and I am grateful for it. For instance, when I first decided to become a full time entrepreneur I struggled and I went flat broke (emotionally and physically) in pursuit of my goals. It was a painful and humbling experience for me to go through and yet, years later I look back with gratitude for those lean years of hardship. If I hadn’t struggled, I wouldn’t be the successful life coach that I am today. How would I identify with my frustrated coaching clients had I breezed right through and created an abundant business right out of the gate?
Sometimes when we’re in the moment of the challenge, it doesn’t appear to be anything we could possibly be grateful for and yet, if we can hold on for a couple of years…the gift is often revealed. Another for instance is a situation of the heart which occurred for me several years ago. I loved, I lost and I was hurt from the experience. It took me awhile to get over that heartbreak and now I look back and I could just kiss the man who broke my heart! Thank God he was a dud and moved on because shortly after him, I met my now fiancé John and trust me, he was worth the wait! Had I not gone through the darkness, I may never have experienced the bright sunshine I live in today.
Let go of the past and live in the now. Now is where the living is…not yesterday or even tomorrow. Now is the time to forgive, forget, be grateful and live your life. Look back with compassion on any situations which caused you pain. Did any good come of the past experience or can you see the gift of the incident today? Are you better, stronger, and a more determined person because of your life mistakes?
Will you let the past go so that you may be healthier, happier and more successful today?
You deserve the joy of forgiveness. If it’s painful and making you sick…forget about it! (Use strong Italian accent when saying that last sentence) 
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Until we meet again – I believe in you!
How to Just “BE”… By Lisa Kitter
Be what? Be you! Step up your energy and enthusiasm for who you are in your life because it is time to step up the way you are “being!”
How do you step up who you are being? Like this, I am being positive, motivating, and confident today. I am being focused and committed and I refuse to “be” anything but an inspiration to others and to myself!
I discovered many years ago that what was important wasn’t necessarily what I thought was important. That “doing” wasn’t nearly as important to my ultimate success as how I was “being” while I was doing, what I was doing!
I used to do things because I was told doing those things would bring me happiness and success. I would do more prospecting calls and I’d do my affirmations and I’d do all the trainings and so forth. I was surprised a few years down the road that all of the doing wasn’t creating positive financial results for me in my business. The moment I changed how I was “being” while I was doing those activities…I became a tremendous business success story! For instance, I began prospecting my business contacts with posture and passion. I began believing my empowering affirmations and feeling the truth of the words as I spoke them out loud each morning. It wasn’t long until I was the one conducting the trainings and teaching others how to be more, have more and how to live more on purpose in their lives.
- Be in the moment
- Be committed to your goals
- Be enthusiastic
- Be grateful for your life every day
- Be genuine to others
- Be energetic and inspirational
- Be constructive
- Be creative
- Be resourceful
- Be a leader of people
- Be someone worth knowing
- Be a good friend
- Be you, fully and completely
- Be consistent
- Be passionate
- Be on purpose
Often times, we think that we have to do more and then we will have more. So, we do and do and do some more and it never does seem to be enough. Truth told, most of the time you are doing too much and not being authentic near as much as you could be and should be. When you begin to be genuine and not a clone of someone else or the person every one wants you to be, you will notice an increase of good in your life. The increase may look like; more people are responding to you in a positive way. The increase may feel like; “I am amazing, wonderful and I am a promise of all good things life has to offer the world.” You may experience a sense of increase in your faith, your belief about living and in the intensity of abundance flowing to you.
Live intentionally today and be everything you desire to be tomorrow except…don’t wait! Be all you desire to be and be it right now, today. Live life as though it is; live as though you have faith, happiness, prosperity, great communication skills, a thriving business and anything else you really desire to be…and be it today!
Stop doing so much and instead, make a promise to yourself to BE an example of what is possible in life and living, beginning right now!
Join Lisa every Monday at 2:00 pm (Eastern Time) for 30 minutes of learning, empowerment & fun on her “Power Up With Lisa” live radio talk show.
Lisa’s special guest are women, just like you, and they have each accomplished balance, harmony, financial profits and peace of mind, while doing the work they love!
You won’t want to miss a single show but if you do…all of Lisa’s power up radio shows are archived and available for easy playback 24 hours per day.
I’d love to hear your thoughts. So please share your comments below in the comment box for our community.
I look forward to sharing again with you very soon. By the way, if you haven’t find out why you deserve to own The Smart Girl’s Guide To Home Business Success. Click here to find out more.
Until we meet again – I believe in you!
7 Simple Tips To Be A Better Contributor
“Acceptance is the first step towards achieving peace of mind, happiness and true prosperity. Accept that you deserve to have all of the abundance the Universe is willing to provide you…give thanks and prepare to receive!” ~ Lisa Kitter
Most people start a home business for the convenience of generating money for themselves from the comfort of their own home. That is definitely a big plus to starting your own business in the wonderful industry of Network Marketing / Direct Sales.
Once introduced to Network Marketing, people find out that there truly is no ceiling on the income potential available. The only ceiling is in direct relation to our thoughts and beliefs about what we can generate.
So with that said, Network Marketing is all about creating a team of like-minded individuals who are looking to improve the quality of their lives by, in most cases, creating financial freedom.
The way to reach your individual financial goals in your own home-based business is to focus on assisting those on your team in reaching their income goals. That’s right! If you focus on assisting those on your team in reaching their goals, you will automatically reach your income goals.
That doesn’t mean that you don’t set income goals for yourself on a weekly or monthly basis. Absolutely do that! What it does mean is your achievement is based on the achievement of others.
You are creating a network of team members who are looking to achieve whatever they’ve set for themselves. You are the leader who is there to guide them toward success.
Notice I said “Guide them to their success.”
You are not in the business of building their business for them, but you are in the business of assisting to point them in the right direction so that they are learning and growing into a duplication of you, which means they are familiar with the process and could do it with or without you.
You are in the business of letting them listen and learn from you as you handle a 3-way call or do a team training session.
Along with focusing on assisting your team members to build their checks, there are other exciting ways and impactful ways to come from a position of contribution, whether talking to team members or anyone else during the course of the day.
Here we go….
7 Simple Tips To Be A Better Contributor
- Smile. Seems like such a little thing, but most people don’t.
- Give compliments.
- Give recognition where due. People love to feel appreciated.
- Be kind.
- Be patient.
- Be encouraging.
- Be the example for others to follow.
Creating profitable results in network marketing is indeed, a team sport!
Have you ever considered ways in which you could be a better contributor within your business and team? What ways have worked the best for you?
I’d love to hear your thoughts. So please share your comments below in the comment box for our community.
I look forward to sharing again with you very soon. By the way, if you haven’t find out why you deserve to own The Smart Girl’s Guide To Home Business Success. Click here to find out more.
Until we meet again – I believe in you!
7 Secrets You Need To Know To Tap Into Your Inner Strength
How do you step into your inner strength? Today we are going to tackle 7 simple steps to help you do just that. I am excited for your breakthrough.
Begin today to not take everything so personally. It’s time to realize that most of that which you are taking personally, isn’t even about you at all!
It’s about the other persona and their beliefs, experiences and habits of behavior.
So…someone treats you in a way that makes you feel as though you’ve been rejected. Is this about you or is it about the other person? If it is about the other person…aren’t they entitled to “feel” or behave any way they choose?
Could you be experiencing a feeling of rejection because that is what you were programmed or trained to feel and couldn’t you choose to believe something different occurred, something other than rejection?
Each person is responsible for his or her own life experience. If you choose to walk around feeling rejected then that is your choice.
What if you decided to interpret your experiences and interactions with other people in a different way? What would happen? Would you be happy and more carefree?
What if instead of deciding that you’ve been rejected, in its place you decide that that other person simply made a decision that was right for them and that you must decide what your interpretation of that decision will be.
Good or bad? Will it be personal or not personal? Will it be about you or about them?
What would make you happiest and would give you a sense of peace and love? To feel rejected or to feel that the individual you’re dealing with has made a decision that is right for them in that particular moment?
Why not opt to be happy and stop taking everything said or done personally?
This subject of taking things personally goes hand in hand with your ingrained beliefs. If you believe that people are attacking you, rejecting you or not loving you or treating you fairly, then you are correct.
You will be sure to experience that belief in order to continue the habit or pattern you have developed.
When you love yourself unconditionally and when you accept the fact that you are indeed perfection in the flesh…you stop taking everything personally.
You begin to accept and love yourself for who you are and you love and accept other people for themselves as well.
Acceptance brings peace and harmony into all situations and it alleviates the feelings of inadequacy. Begin today to practice acceptance.
Inner strength is a prerequisite to complete fulfillment. Notice I did not say physical strength but rather inner strength. To define inner strength I must ask you to seek your soul.
Go deep within yourself and feel the steel, which is there. It is within each of us so don’t despair as to whether you possess inner strength. Know and accept that you have an inner strength that you may not be aware of yet, however it is there.
Inner strength is that special “something” you have deep inside of your very essence. It is that unique quality, which will not allow you to quit, fail or walk away when the going gets tough!
Has there been a time in your life when you felt as though you were fighting an uphill battle?
Did you ever feel as though you desired something so much that you were willing to be uncomfortable, unhappy or temporarily displaced in order to receive the thing you desired?
What caused you to hang on, to stay in the game when times were challenging? It was inner strength that’s what caused you to stay and fight… inner strength.
There will be many times that in your pursuit of complete fulfillment, you must draw on your inner strength. You will have to seek the steel that you hold internally and infinitely.
Inner strength is your connection to your complete and total self, the self that is connected with infinite intelligence and all of life. The self, which is who you really are and always will be…YOU!
7 Secrets To Tapping Into Your Inner Strength:
- Make a decision to achieve, accomplish or obtain your goal.
- Design an achievable and workable game plan
- Include a date or time limit for accomplishment of your goal
- Imagine yourself in possession of your goal (act as if it is so)
- Proceed forward with enthusiasm and faith
- Stay the course even when times are rough
- Decide that quitting is not an option
When good people experience challenges and heartache it’s inner strength that keeps them moving forward in life. Decide today to become a person of strength and make your strength an internal version of the valor you most admire in others.
Your spirit or internal light is a thin string of infinite creation which links you directly with all that is and all that was and all that ever will be. When you become aware of this wonder and indeed recognize the truth in your connection with all knowledge, love and strength…you will know no limits.
What does it mean to know no limits? Exactly that. No limits, not ever. No limited thoughts, no limits to your ability to create, love and accept. There will be no limits to your abilities in any and all endeavors. Powerful and power less at the same time. You will be powerful because there is nothing you cannot have or do or be. You will be power less because you will not require any great power to have this unlimited amount of potential.
In other words, you will have absolute and total freedom! To use the phrase, “will have” is actually incorrect. The truth is you already “have” these natural gifts.
Inner strength is actually interchangeable with the phrase “intense desire.” Once you make a decision and back it with an intense and unwavering desire to accomplish and achieve no matter the obstacles or the commitment required…you will become all you truly deserve to be!
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How Do You Define Success? (video)
”Do not allow anyone to tell you what success is…because success is like beauty and is in the eye of the beholder!”~ Lisa Kitter
What is success? How do you define it in regards to your home based business? These are questions that every home-business owner ponders on…. really how you define it matters most to you.
Like beauty, how success is defined is definitely in the eye of the beholder.
As promised, I have a special video about success that I want to share with you today.
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So what are your thoughts? How do you define success? Please share your thoughts in the comment box below.
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